광고< /iframe></p><p>이번 주 Endless Thread에서는 진행자 Ben Brock Johnson과 프로듀서 Grace Tatter가 슈퍼모델 Bella Hadid가 외모 이외의 다른 특성에 대해 서로를 칭찬하라는 요청에서 영감을 받은 밈을 살펴보고 진정으로 진정한 칭찬이 필요한 이유가 무엇인지 묻습니다.</p><p><strong>메모 표시</strong></p><p><strong>에피소드 제작자:</strong>그레이스 태터</p><p><strong>공동 진행자:</strong>벤 브록 존슨과 그레이스 태터</p><p><strong>쇼 프로듀서:</strong>노라 삭스, 딘 러셀, 퀸시 월터스, 애모리 시버트슨, 사마타 조시, 폴 베이트커스, 맷 리드</p><p><strong>믹스 및 사운드 디자인:</strong>에밀리 얀코프스키</p><p><strong>쇼를 지원하십시오:</strong></p><p> 우리는 Endless Thread를 만드는 것을 좋아하며 먼 미래에도 계속해서 만들 수 있기를 원합니다. 당신도 원하신다면 우리 업무에 어떤 금액으로든 기여해 주시면 진심으로 감사하겠습니다. 매월 기부하는 모든 사람은 독점 보너스 콘텐츠에 액세스할 수 있습니다. 기부 페이지를 보려면 여기를 클릭하세요. 감사합니다!</p><p> 이 콘텐츠는 원래 오디오용으로 제작되었습니다. 대본은 명확성을 위해 원본 스크립트에서 편집되었습니다. 일부 요소(예: 음악, 음향 효과, 톤)는 텍스트로 번역하기가 더 어렵다는 점에 유의하세요.</p><p>벤: 그레이스 테터요.</p><p>그레이스: 벤 브록 존슨.</p><p> 벤: 이건 급한 일이 될 것 같아요. 당신은 나를 위해 하나를 가지고 있습니다.</p><p>그레이스: 그렇죠.</p><p>벤: 이번 주에 나한테 뭘 줄까?</p><p>Grace: 이번 주에 제가 여러분에게 전해드릴 내용은 인터넷의 Grace Tatter 코너, 즉 인스타그램의 매우 기본적인 코너에서 가져온 것입니다.</p><p> 벤: 괜찮아요. 나는 기본적인 인스타그램을 좋아한다. 기본적인 인스타그램에 너무 깊이 들어가지 않는 한 저는 괜찮습니다.</p><p> 그레이스: 그게 내가 여기 있는 이유야. 나는 여기 깊게 들어가려고 왔으니 당신은 그럴 필요가 없습니다.</p><p>벤: 하느님 감사합니다.</p><p>Grace: Instagram에 Discover 페이지가 어떻게 있는지 아시나요?</p><p>벤: 그렇죠.</p><p> 그레이스: 알았어. 그래서 나는 당신의 것이 무엇인지 모릅니다. 내 것은 치료 계정에서 많은 것을 얻었습니다. 인스타그램 알고리즘은 내 정신 건강에 대해 매우 우려하고 있습니다.</p><p>벤: 아뇨.</p><p> 그레이스: 네, 최근처럼 "쾌락에 대한 당신의 저항을 알려주는 것"이라는 제목의 슬라이드 자료를 보여줬어요. 저는 인스타그램을 통한 치료가 실제로 필요하지 않기 때문에 일반적으로 이러한 항목을 클릭하지 않습니다.</p><p>벤: 멍청한 질문 하나 해도 될까요?</p><p>그레이스: 네.</p><p> 벤: 쾌락에 대한 당신의 저항을 알려주는 것은 무엇입니까? 아니요, 농담이에요. 내 질문은 발견 부분에 접근하는 것입니다. 검색하는 것입니까?</p><p> 그레이스: 응. 아래로 내려가면 돋보기처럼 보입니다.</p><p> 벤: 응. 돋보기</p><p> 그레이스: 응. 당신의 것은 무엇입니까?</p><p> 벤: 어휴, 안 좋아. 숲에서 일을하는 것은 매우 강한 친구들입니다.</p><p> 그레이스: 그렇게 나쁘지는 않은 것 같네요. 좀 흥미로운 것 같네요. 당신은 숲속에서 활동하는 것을 좋아합니다.</p><p> 벤: 응. 그리고 적어도 여섯 살 된 제 아이들의 말에 따르면 저는 매우 강한 친구입니다. 올슨 쌍둥이에 관한 뭔가가 있습니다. 왜 그런지 잘 모르겠습니다. 아, 맙소사, 그게 — 마음에 안 드네요. 그리고 왜인지는 모르겠지만 미드타운 맨해튼에 서 있는 Jeff Bezos와 Elon Musk의 영상이 있습니다. 윽. 그러면 저는 그 콘텐츠에 관심이 없습니다. Seinfeld 콘텐츠도 있고 Sylvester Stallone 콘텐츠도 있는데 그의 끔찍한 Instagram 작업이 꽤 재미있다고 생각하기 때문입니다. 거기에 두고 갈게요.</p><p>Grace: 인스타그램이 저를 생각하는 것보다 인스타그램이 당신이 조금 더 건강하다고 생각하는 것 같네요.</p><p>벤: 그럴 수도 있지만, 어쩌면 인스타그램도 성차별적이고 여성혐오적인 것일 수도 있어요.</p><p>Grace: 어쩌면 알고리즘이 약간 성차별적일 수도 있습니다.</p><p>벤: 아마 그럴 수도 있겠네요.</p><p>그레이스: 그럴 수도 있겠네요.</p><p> 벤: 그렇죠, 알면 충격을 받을 것 같아요. 농담이에요. 좋아요, Discover는 당신이 즐거움을 누릴 수 있도록 치료를 받기를 원합니다.</p><p> 그레이스: 네, 반대 신호가 많음에도 불구하고 인스타그램이 제가 제 자신에 대해 더 나은 기분을 갖기를 원한다고 주장하는 것과 마찬가지죠. 그리고 알고리즘이 이런 정보를 제공하는 유일한 사람이 되어서는 안 됩니다. 벨라 하디드가 누구인지 아시나요? 나는 우리가 인터넷의 기본 코너를 다룰 것이라고 말했습니다.</p><pBen: No. Oh no. Um, oh God. So this is gonna be wrong, but this is what I'm gonna say. You know, a classically attractive pop star from the UK. That's it./p><pGrace: You're close. She's a supermodel. I think she's from California, although she seems very international./p><pBen: Okay. Fair. Fair./p><pGrace: She's probably spent a lot of time in London./p><pBen: Okay. No music? Doesn't have a fake music career?/p><pGrace: Not so far as I know. Not yet. You were close in that she's very classically attractive and that's the main reason why she's famous. I'm going to send you a post that she recently posted on Insta./p><pBen: Oh boy. Oh, oh, interesting that we, that we started this conversation with me saying that she was classically attractive, because this is a list of non-appearance compliments./p><pGrace: Exactly. Can you read some of them for me?/p><pBen: "I admire your passion and drive. You're such a great listener. It has been amazing to watch you grow. I feel so comfortable around you. Your confidence inspires me. You are kind and full of courage."/p><pGrace: Why are you laughing?/p><pBen: I don't know. That one got me. I'm not sure why. It feels ridiculous. "You're kind and full of courage." I don't know. Something about that feels like a fake. It feels fake. "I love how you can give me different perspectives. You have the best energy. You make me feel seen, heard and valued."/p><pGrace: Well, that was a great reading./p><pBen: That's a, see, that was a non-appearance compliment, Grace./p><pGrace: There you go. Yeah, I, I actually feel like, I think both of us are pretty good at non-appearance compliments. I have never once in my life been like, ah, crap, I can't think of a non-appearance compliment. I need to consult a list from Instagram. That's not something that has come up for me, despite – this actually originally came from an account called Everyday Connection, that is exactly the type of thing that Instagram is always recommending to me. Just a lot of, you know, things that are very well-intentioned, but do perhaps seem a little bit surface-level. And I very, very much admire where these things are coming from, right? Like, I think that it is often problematic to comment on how people physically look because a lot of what we consider, or like the, a lot of beauty norms are really bound with these harmful systems, like the patriarchy, white supremacy…/p><pBen: Never never heard of it. Never heard of it./p><pGrace: So yeah, ultimately I'm all about de-emphasizing the importance of appearances and, um, complimenting people on other things that are maybe more in their control./p><pBen: I also, you know, can I float to theory?/p><pGrace: Yeah./p><pBen: I do think you're good at non-appearance compliments, and I think you're probably better than me. This is just a theory, hopefully it's a non-problematic theory. Okay. I'm winding up. I'm winding up./p><pI think that women have to deal with appearance way more than men do. And so women recognize how messed up appearance compliments can feel and be, and so I, my guess would be that women on the whole are much better at giving non-appearance compliments because they know what it feels like to receive one that is unwanted and unappreciated./p><pGrace: Yeah, that resonates with me and I do think like why Bella Hadid posted this and she did get some pushback because obviously even though she's – in the caption, she's kind of saying that outward beauty doesn't matter, when obviously that's what made her really rich, right? So she's –/p><pBen: Supermodel says, outward appearance doesn't matter. A person who makes all of their money based on an economy of appearances, uh, says that appearances don't matter. Is that what you're saying?/p><pGrace: Exactly. But I think in some ways both things can be true, right?/p><pBen: Of course./p><pGrace: She can be profiting off the system, and also resent being reduced to her looks or like that feeling of like constant surveillance that I think sometimes one might feel when someone comments on their appearance./p><pBen: The male gaze./p><pGrace: Exactly. But still, I will admit when I saw her post, they kind of made me laugh, like you laughed at some of them. And they also kind of annoyed me because again, like who are these lists for, like the unwanted physical comments that I've gotten? I don't think that those people are following Bella Hadid on Instagram./p><pBen: Yeah. Well, and also like they're probably not thinking – like the whole problem with that, right? Is that like the person is delivering that compliment without thinking. Where it's like, I think those kinds of compliments are fundamentally, like they lack intentionality and care and you know what I mean? Does that make sense?/p><pGrace: Yes. Usually compliments like that are coming kind of off the cuff, but like in general, there's something about like if you do get a compliment, you don't necessarily want to feel like someone like Googled the exact right thing to say to you./p><pBen: Well, that's the problem with all these non-appearance compliments. They seem like the most basic, shallow, fake, generic compliments that you could come up with, right?/p><pGrace: Yes, exactly. And I googled non-physical compliments and just like pages and pages of guides like this come up. One was posted about a year ago on a subreddit called coolguides which is all kind of infographics./p><pBen: Love me some cool guides./p><pGrace: And this one was from, an Instagram account that I also get fed all the time - @Millennialtherapist. And a lot of them, I mean, again, so well-intentioned. "Your passion is contagious. I appreciate how authentically you show up" – which feels kind of ironic because if you look at all the comments on it, of which there are many, most of them are saying kind of what we've just said./p><pLike someone said, "If someone started saying this shit to me, I would assume they were trying to get me to join a cult." "Half of these could be considered passive aggressive if said with the wrong tone." So ultimately, again, although these infographics are everywhere, there's not actually that much of an audience hoping to get these specific compliments, I would say./p><pBut there is an audience…who has some creative alternatives to these lists. And we’ll get to that in a minute/p><p><strong[SPONSOR BREAK]/strong></p><pSo we’ve been talking about these lists of "non-appearance compliments" that have been making the rounds on Instagram for years on kind of inspirational, therapy-speak accounts. The post Bella Hadid shared wasn't the first by a long-shot. The earliest list I found was from 2015, so kind of early days of Instagram in the scheme of things, on an account called the artidote. And with anything that ubiquitous – there's also going to be posts kind of poking fun of it, right? So fast forward to this past week and I had a few friends send me this meme./p><pBen: All right. Very Harry Hill./p><pGrace: Classic meme account./p><pBen: Yep. Non-appearance compliments./p><pGrace: Can you read some of these? You did so well last time./p><pBen: "I haven't met anyone like you that recently. OK, lamp! You're glowing."/p><pGrace: That's my favorite one./p><pBen: "Your aura is literally fuchsia. Not you being quietly luxurious. You remind me of my favorite professor. I need to be at Target with you right now. I could see you dating Jon Hamm. You def would've survived the Titanic. You're so good at shopping sales. I'm sure you have great boobs, but I wouldn't know because I'm not looking."/p><pGrace: That one, I'm gonna say, is an appearance-based compliment./p><pBen: That is fully appearance-based. I would argue, also the lamp. "OK lamp, you're glowing," is absolutely appearance-based./p><pGrace: You know, that's true. I, it could be talking about like a spiritual glow, if we're tying it to number three, "Your aura is literally fuchsia." But you're right. I think usually people are thinking about skincare./p><pBen: Mm-hmm. "Your sneezes are so subtle and posh." This shit is amazing. "Tech whizz! You kill it at the Genius Bar. I love that you just show up whenever."/p><pGrace: I thought of you a little bit with the last one./p><pBen: Oh, I knew you were gonna say that, Grace./p><pGrace: It's a compliment!/p><pBen: How dare you? Uh, how freaking dare you./p><pGrace: It's a compliment. As someone who has to send you a lot of meeting invites –/p><pBen: Oh my God. Okay. You're saying that not as in I show up late to all of my meetings, which is also maybe slightly true sometimes. But you're saying that as in, I'm down to clown whenever you want me to clown with you./p><pGrace: Well, I was saying the former, but also the latter./p><pBen: Oh my God, this is brutal. This is a gotcha interview, Grace. I'm out. I'm out./p><pGrace: I appreciate when you show up. That's what I mean. I appreciate how you show up. Whenever. I'll turn it back into a compliment./p><pBen: Oh my God. Okay./p><pGrace: Okay. Alright. Okay. So I think that like, these are so broad and even though some of them, because it's a silly meme, like do actually have to do with physical appearance, it shouldn't be that hard to make a non-physical comment because like most things are not about physical appearance, like you could say like, literally anything. So like, again, why do you need a list?/p><pBen: My step brother-in-law Will, I feel like, Will brings a lot of this kind of like language and energy, but in a way that's like very genuine. He will vocalize his appreciation for me in a way that like is inspiring to me that I would like to, that I would like to, to sort of put back into the world. And I feel like I do that to a certain degree. Like, I feel like I'm pretty good at appreciating people and like supporting them, I, I hope. But I – this is like inspiring me to, to just think and actually like, execute on complimenting people in like a genuine and custom way. Not like a, let me memorize this list of you're, you're such a great listener things, and, and like say them to them. You know what I mean?/p><pGrace: Yeah. And maybe that's really like why a lot of these guides exist, not with the hope that people are reading them word-for-word or repeating them word-for-word/p><pBen: Sure. It's inspo./p><pGrace: Exactly. Like a launching off point./p><pBen: Yeah. It's a mood board./p><pBen: Should we practice some non-physical appearance-based compliments with each other?/p><pGrace: Yes. Yeah. Not using a list. Authentic./p><pBen: All right, I'll go. I'll go first. I love how you bring a positive attitude even amongst the fog of war./p><pGrace: Where did that come from?/p><pBen: You know, we're, we're in the, you and I are in the content mines, Grace. You know, it's tough out there when you're, when you're making content sometimes and you know, you bring the positive vibes, you're a can-do person even when we can't do it. You know what I mean?/p><pGrace: Well, thank you. I appreciate that. Um, okay, let me think of one for you./p><pBen: Oh, better be good. After you've insulted my meeting show up vibes./p><pGrace: Let's see./p><pBen: All right. Give Grace about 20, give her about 25 minutes to think of one thing./p><pBen: Grace furiously Googling non-appearance based compliments./p><pGrace: Oh shit. It turns out you do need a guide. I really like the joy that you show up to — you show up to every meeting with joy. You're often singing. Often your joy is contagious, Ben, even in the fog of war. Is that too similar to yours? Did I just copy yours?/p><pBen: No, no, no. We did great. I feel like we did pretty good. Yeah. So is this our ask of the listeners?/p><pGrace: Yeah. To think of –/p><pBen: non-appearance-based compliments./p><pGrace: For Endless Thread, for each other./p><pBen: Oh, that's good. Folks, if you're listening and you enjoyed this episode, please go to Apple Podcasts and write a non-appearance based review. No, seriously, go, you know, go compliment somebody who needs it. I think we all need it. And it needs to not be creepily, um, you know, appearance based./p><pGrace: Great./p><pBen: All right. Silence from grace./p><pGrace: No, definitely anti-creepy appearance-based compliments./p><pBen: Cool. Thanks, Grace. We'll be back with another episode next week. And in the meantime…/p><pGrace: Keep glowing. Internally./p><pBen: Spiritually./p><pGrace: Because we don't care about your outward glow./p><pGrace: This episode was produced by me, Grace Tatter, co-hosted by Ben Brock Johnson and sound designed by Emily Jankowski. 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